Hi Sondra - I'm glad my writing was helpful :)
Narcissist abuse is horrible, and so many people don't discover it until much later in life. Most people in support groups I've been to have kids, marriages, and shared homes are involved. I feel really lucky to have discovered this so early.
The first few months were really dark for me though. It does get much better after you untangle the damage. I'm realizing that I was such a key target because I have so much to offer naturally.
I'm so sorry you're in this situation and happy that you're exploring it. The realization is huge! Sending warmth.