Thank you Sondra - this article feels so powerful! Your vulnerability is astounding. I wasn't always aware of my own racist mental defaults. I grew up in a judgmental white home and heard racial jokes often.

Your article has helped me to become even more aware of how to continue to eradicate my inner defaults. As a woman, I know how it feels to be treated differently due to a preconceived notion someone else has in their mind. I know how it feels to be treated as "less than."

These judgments are not okay. We can do better. We all can do better to be more inclusive and aware of the unhelpful "defaults" of our culture. Thank you for this wonderful article!

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